As we dig deeper into our consciousness we discover that we all have many different parts of ourselves. These parts can be in conflict with each other and keep us locked up from moving forward in our unfolding process of our spiritual evolution. Many years ago during a meditation I was able to hear and identify one of those disagreeing parts distinctly enough, but that awareness didn’t immediately make it go away or make it any less noisy. And so the problem remained, how do I find peace when some part of myself is screaming inside me. It has been like trying to still a very loud and unruly child yelling in my house.
So what has been the solution? There are several parts to the process. It has been called dis-identifying, self compassion, and many other names. In terms of attitude, I can’t just expect these voices to stop or change, I have to be accepting of them. I have to be allowing of them, and I have to be spacious around them and surround them with calm. As I do this, the noisy voices begin losing their dominance over my consciousness. They seem to take up less space and seem to loose some of their influencing power. Naming them seems to help too. When one these parts likes to argue and fight against the things I want to say or do, if I can non-judgmentally say, “thinking” or “emotions”, or “ego” or in some way name it, it seems to help loosen some of it’s grip on my consciousness. This is the same process that is taught in some forms of meditation but I am practicing this throughout the day as I notice these uncomfortable thoughts and feelings arising and interfering with my sense of peace and calm.
Ultimately they are all parts of myself and it is only through embracing all parts of myself can I find wholeness and peace. So like the good mother who comforts the crying baby or soothes the child having a tantrum, we must practice loving kindness towards even the worst of our parts. And as we are able to embody this practice inwardly with these parts of ourselves, we create the equanimity and the ground to express this loving kindness towards others outside our ourselves in the world. For in truth they are all parts of us too.